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Tips from Wedding Planners: How to Stick to Your Wedding Budget

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Whether you’re in the thick of wedding planning or just starting to save inspiration to a Pinterest board – you probably know the big day can come with an equally as big bill. According to a recent survey from Zola, the average cost of a wedding jumped to over $36,000 in 2025 – with 74% of couples saying they went over their original budget. It’s easy to lose sight of the bottom line when planning for one of the happiest days of your life, but setting a budget and priorities can keep you grounded as you prepare to tie the knot. Check out these tips from wedding planners on how to actually stick to your wedding budget.

1. Discuss Priorities with Your Partner

Emily Forrest from Zola, an online wedding planning company, says that discussing your priorities early on can be the difference between staying within and going over your budget. It’s not hard to feel the pressure of spending whatever it takes to make your wedding “perfect,” but it’s important to leave expectations at the door and focus on what matters most to you and your partner. Lauren Kay from The Knot, another online wedding planning company, suggests finding two or three things you are aligned on as a couple and budget for those things first. Do you prefer to keep your ceremony and celebration small and intimate rather than having a big guest list? Would you rather a DJ over a live band? It’s important to know what you’re both willing to splurge on and where you might want to cut back – rather than having competing priorities that add to the bill. Aside from budgeting, discussions about priorities will be key to keeping sight of the meaningful parts of the day that matter most to you as a couple.

2. Determine Your Maximum Spend

What can you and your partner afford to spend on your wedding without compromising on other financial goals? Consider what you will each contribute and what your families might contribute, if they’ve offered to help pay. The amount you arrive at should be your maximum wedding spend, or the total you and your partner plan to spend on your special day. After determining this figure, you can assign dollar amounts to the line items within your wedding budget. This approach will help you balance the cost of a wedding with your individual and joint financial goals.

3. Expect the Unexpected – Include Wiggle Room

Once you know the amount you can spend on your wedding, set a portion of that aside so you have some wiggle room. A general rule of thumb is reserving 5 to 10 percent of your overall wedding budget for common culprits of overspending – unexpected last-minute expenses or potential vendor changes. That means if your wedding budget is $10,000, plan to spend around $9,000 (or 90% of the overall budget) so you have $1,000 (or 10%) for any unexpected expenses that may arise.

4. Think of Your Budget as a Wedding Blueprint

Kisha Barner, CEO and Founder of K. Barner Events and author of a wedding budget eBook, recommends treating your wedding budget like a blueprint. Much like a blueprint for a house shows a plan for how rooms will be allocated within the space, a blueprint for a wedding shows a plan for how much will be spent in each category. By estimating how much you can spend in each wedding category, you can limit any impulse purchases that tend to make couples go over budget. This will also help you prioritize what’s most important to you and your significant other, as well as track and refine your budget as you go. Common categories include venue, catering, photography/videography, and flowers.

5. Track Spending Along the Way

Tracking expenses as they arise will help you stay true to your budget, make informed decisions, and avoid costly surprises. By tracking expenses, you can monitor if your spending is aligned with your intentions and make changes in real time as needed. You can also make other refinements if there is an opportunity to save or reallocate funds. For example, if you spent less than anticipated on florals – you can decide to reallocate that extra money toward another aspect of the wedding, or save it.

If you need a little extra help with your wedding budget, consider our Financial Helper Loan. With low rates, fixed monthly payments, and personalized service – you can say “I do” with less worry. For more information, contact First Financial’s Loan Department at 732.312.1500, Option 4 or visit a local branch.

With open communication and a strong commitment to your budget, you can keep financial stress out of mind so you can focus on what matters most on your wedding day and to begin your forever with the right financial footing. Congratulations to those of you tying the knot soon!

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How to Save Money as a Wedding Guest

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Nothing is more exciting than celebrating love and marriage — until the expenses start adding up. One invitation may not seem like a big deal, but when you add in travel, gifts, new outfits, hotel stays, bridal showers, and bachelor or bachelorette celebrations, the costs can add up quickly.

If you’re attending one or multiple weddings this year, you’re not alone in wondering how to celebrate your friends and family without straining your budget. The good news is that with a little planning, it’s possible to enjoy wedding season while keeping your finances on track.

Cue the wedding bells! Here are some practical ways to save money as a wedding guest.

Set a Budget Before Wedding Season Starts

If you know you’ll be attending several weddings this year, it helps to plan ahead. Create a wedding guest budget that includes potential costs such as travel and lodging, gifts, attire, bachelor or bachelorette events, meals, and transportation. Having a general budget in place can help you avoid surprise expenses and reduce the temptation to rely on credit cards to cover costs.

We have a helpful budgeting guide and financial resources to get you started.

Book Travel Early

Travel is often one of the biggest wedding-related expenses, especially for destination weddings or out-of-town events. If possible, book flights and hotel accommodations early to take advantage of lower prices.

You can also look for additional ways to save by:

  • Sharing hotel rooms with friends or family
  • Booking early enough to utilize the hotel block
  • Using travel rewards points
  • Comparing airfare and hotel prices across multiple sites
  • Carpooling if the wedding is within driving distance

Even small savings on travel can make a big difference when attending multiple events throughout the year.

Be Strategic About Wedding Attire

Between photo ops and social media posts, there’s often a lot of pressure to buy a new outfit for every event. Unfortunately, that can add up quickly if you’re not careful. Rewearing the same outfit for every event may not be everyone’s cup of tea – so instead, consider borrowing wedding-appropriate clothes from friends or family.

If you still want the shopping experience, you can also try thrifting for secondhand clothing. This is a great way to find something truly one-of-a-kind without sacrificing style. Renting formalwear is another option, depending on your budget.

Stick to a Comfortable Gift Budget

Wedding gifts are meant to celebrate the couple, not create financial stress. It’s okay to choose a gift that fits comfortably within your budget. If you’re trying to save money, consider shopping directly from the couple’s registry for items within your price range or splitting a larger gift with a group of friends. Remember, most couples appreciate your presence and support more than the price tag of a gift.

Be Honest About What You Can Afford

Weddings often include additional celebrations beyond the ceremony itself, such as engagement parties, bridal showers, bachelor or bachelorette trips, and post-wedding brunches. Attending every event may not always be financially realistic.

It’s okay to politely decline activities that don’t fit your budget. You do not need to overexplain your financial situation. A simple and honest response such as, “I’d love to celebrate with you, but I can’t make this event work financially right now,” can go a long way. If you still want to show support – consider sending a thoughtful card, contributing to a group gift, or making plans to celebrate with the couple another time.

Avoid Last-Minute Spending

The biggest no-no is last-minute spending. Rush shipping fees, expensive convenience purchases, and impulse spending often happen when plans are made too late. Creating a simple checklist ahead of time can help you stay organized and avoid unnecessary expenses. Planning early also gives you more time to compare prices and find better deals.

Use Credit Carefully

It can be tempting to put wedding expenses on a credit card, especially during a busy wedding season. However, carrying balances from multiple events can lead to long-term debt and interest charges that last far beyond the celebrations.

Whenever possible, try to pay for wedding-related expenses with money already built into your budget. If you do use a credit card and have accumulated some debt, utilize smart strategies to help get it under control.

Celebrate Without Overspending

Being part of someone’s special day does not have to mean overspending or taking on debt. With thoughtful planning, realistic budgeting, and smart spending choices, you can enjoy wedding season while keeping your financial goals on track.

If you have questions about managing your budget, building savings, or planning for major life events, First Financial is here to help you every step of the way. Contact us today or make an appointment at your local branch to further discuss the options that may be available to you.

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Fall At-Home Date Nights: Cozy Ideas for the Season

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Autumn brings crisp air, changing leaves, and a desire to slow down and savor life’s little comforts. It’s also the perfect time to reconnect with your partner, and you can do that on a budget without ever leaving the house. At First Financial, we believe in building not just financial futures – but meaningful, shared moments. To help you lean into the warmth and creativity this season, here are 10 fall-friendly at-home date ideas that you and your partner will love.

1. Create a Hot Chocolate & Dessert Bar

Transform your kitchen or dining room table into a cozy treat station. Offer various hot chocolate flavors (dark, milk, white, caramel, etc.), whipped cream, flavored syrups, cinnamon sticks, and marshmallows. Pair it with mini desserts like chocolate truffles, cookies, or slices of pumpkin pie. Put on soft music, and enjoy a sweet (literally) conversation.

2. Fall Baking Night

Gather seasonal recipes – think pumpkin bread, apple pie, or pecan cookies, and bake side by side. Work as a team: one mixes the dough, the other decorates or handles clean-up. When it’s ready, enjoy your creation over candlelight with a scoop of vanilla ice cream.

3. Indoor Picnic with a Twist

Lay out a cozy blanket in your living room. Prepare your favorite savory snacks (charcuterie board, grilled cheese, autumn soups) and add candles or string lights to set the mood. Bring in a playlist that reminds you of your earlier days together.

4. Craft Night

Get creative together. Some ideas might include:

  • Making fall wreaths or garland
  • Painting pumpkins
  • Designing homemade candles with scents like cinnamon, apple, or pine
  • Assembling a scrapbook or memory journal

5. Movie Marathon Under a Blanket Fort

Build a cozy fort with blankets and pillows in your living room. Snuggle inside with popcorn and your favorite films or a series you’ve been meaning to watch together.

6. Wine or Cider Tasting

Select a few small bottles of wine or apple cider. Do a mini-tasting indoors, pairing each flavor with small bites like various cheeses, nuts, chocolate, or seasonal fruit. Discuss what you like (and don’t), comparing notes. Bonus points if you try local or regional refreshments.

7. Game Night or Trivia Duel

Dust off your board games or grab some puzzles. Compete in Scrabble, card games, or trivia challenges. Add a fall twist by including themed questions such as, which state produces the most apples? You can even create your own trivia quiz about you as a couple.

8. Read Aloud & Reflect

Pick a short story, poem, or favorite passage from a book and take turns reading aloud. After each reading, pause and reflect on what resonated. Keep things cozy with blankets, a soothing drink, and soft lamps.

9. Outdoor-Indoor Hybrid: Fire Pit & Stargazing

If you have a backyard or patio, light a small fire pit. Wrap yourselves in blankets, sip hot cider or cocoa, bring out blankets and pillows, and gaze at the night sky. You can transition inside later (maybe to that fort you built!) if the temperature drops.

10. Try a Virtual Cooking or Art Class

Sign up for a short online class – such as making pasta from scratch, painting a landscape, or learning to mix cocktails. You’ll follow along side by side, adapting to your pace. At the end, enjoy the fruit of your joint effort.

Final Tips for a Memorable Fall Date Night

  • Set the atmosphere: Dim lights, candles, soft music.
  • Unplug intentionally: Turn off or silence devices.
  • Plan ahead: Pick the menu or craft materials in advance.
  • Be flexible: Let the night evolve organically.
  • Focus on connection, not perfection!

Fall is more than a season – it’s a mood, and a time to slow down and savor. Use these at-home date ideas as a canvas, then tailor them to your own taste as a couple.

Want more inspiration for living well and smart saving? Read more seasonal financial tips and ideas for staying within your budget on our First Scoop Blog!

Getting Married or Cohabitating Later in Life

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Sometimes life gets in the way of love, keeping people from “walking down the aisle” until later in life. If you’re middle-aged or older and are planning to get married or cohabitate with your partner, there are some potentially awkward issues you should probably talk about to make sure you’re on the same page.

Later-in-life marriages often come with strong tethers to people, places, accounts, and things that can complicate decisions and actions—whether it’s your ex-spouse, kids, grandkids, aging parents, debt, personal goals, or something else. It’s a good idea to be sure your trusted partner knows where you stand on these—and that your partner is willing to share similar information with you. Find a comfortable place to sit, chat, and share information about your assets, your goals and expectations. Also, talk about income, bills, and who will pay what—and when—while you’re living together.

Bowling Green State University’s National Center for Family & Marriage Research reports that 28% of 45-to 64-year-olds, and 31% of those 65 plus—are remarried.1 Whatever the reason, there are both advantages and disadvantages to getting married later in life—or to cohabitating, which increased 75% for those 50 and older between 2007 and 2017, according to Pew Research.2

The potential benefits of marrying later in life include:3

  • Problem solving: Your experience and maturity give you and your partner better problem-solving skills and a stronger understanding of the importance of working together to accomplish goals, and overcome difficulties.
  • Combined incomes: Combining incomes and assets—and potentially selling or renting your home or your partner’s home—can create a healthier financial situation.
  • Tax benefits: Getting married gives you and your partner substantial financial and tax benefits. Also, married spouses can receive an unlimited amount of assets from their spouse without having to pay estate taxes.
  • Longer lives: Single men and women don’t stay as healthy or live as long as their married counterparts, according to a study published in the American Journal of Epidemiology.4

The potential problems that can be created by marrying later in life include:5

  • Lack of communication and financial agreements: Some older adults are reluctant to share information about their assets out of concern that the information may influence their partner’s decisions—including about their own healthcare if they become severely ill or incapacitated. For this and other reasons—including the potential for a “gray divorce”—a prenuptial agreement and a well-thought-out estate plan can give you confidence.
  • Higher medical costs: Medical expenses rise as we age, and you will be responsible for your spouse’s debts. Eventually you and/or your spouse may need to go into an assisted living/nursing home.
  • Responsibilities for children from previous relationship: If one spouse has children from a past relationship, the other spouse might have to share the financial responsibility, as a couple.

Other Considerations for Older Couples

A growing number of older couples are choosing to cohabitate instead of get married. Between 2000 and 2020, cohabitation among couples older than 50 quadrupled.6 Reasons included their desire to pass their assets to their kids, and to be able to retain Social Security benefits or alimony from their former spouse.6

Because of potential financial complications for older couples, it’s a good idea to talk to a trusted advisor, accountant, and/or estate lawyer to help you and your partner navigate and avoid potential stumbling blocks that could send you down the road to “gray divorce.” According to the American Bar Association, couples 50 years old and older currently make up a 25% of all divorces, and those 65 and older make up 10%.7

Questions about this topic? Contact First Financial’s Investment & Retirement Center by calling 732.312.1534.  You can also email mary.laferriere@lpl.com or maureen.mcgreevy@lpl.com

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1. AARP, June 2, 2023: Financial Checklist for Remarrying After 50

2. Pew Research Center, April 6, 2017: Number of U.S. adults cohabiting with a partner continues to rise, especially among those 50 and older

3. and 5. Senior Care Lifestyles: The Pros and Cons of Marrying Later in Life

4. NBC News, August 18, 2011: Single people may die younger, new study finds

6. Time magazine, September 19, 2021: Why Older Couples Don’t Need Marriage to Have Great Relationships

7. American Bar Association, March 9, 2022: 70s are the new 50s: How Grey Divorce Differs from a Typical Divorce

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How to Negotiate with Wedding Vendors

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The days leading up to the happiest day of your life can quickly become stressful as the costs of your wedding vendors start to add up. Let’s face it – weddings are expensive. If you and your partner are fronting the bill, it might be among the costliest purchases you will ever have to make as a couple. It’s common to negotiate on the price of certain big ticket item purchases, such as your car or a home – why not negotiate with your wedding vendors, too? As with many things in life, there is a right way and a wrong way to go about it. While you want to have the wedding of your dreams, wedding vendors also rely on their business for their livelihood. Here are some ways to thoughtfully and respectfully negotiate with wedding vendors for your special day.

Do Your Research

Before you contact any potential wedding vendors, and certainly before you negotiate with them – do your research. Once you have identified potential vendors, read their reviews. Reviews will offer a glimpse into the vendor’s offerings, the quality of their services, and the prices that others have paid. Finding out the average price you can expect to pay – will set your expectations as to what an appropriate price range is, ensure that you approach any negotiations thoughtfully, and know when to identify a good deal.

The research doesn’t stop when you begin meeting with wedding vendors. Collect quotes from several that you are considering working with. Whether the vendor is offering a package or individual services, compare prices to identify which has the best-priced option. This can be beneficial if you are considering a counteroffer, as you can explain what you were expecting for the service they are offering.

Honesty is the Best Policy

When you begin meeting with potential wedding vendors, be truthful about your budget. Also ask the vendor to be upfront with you about what is included in their service, as it would not be recommended to negotiate without having a clear understanding about what you are being offered. Being honest with a vendor will ensure that you are not only being respectful of their time, but will also allow you to make an appropriate decision about hiring them and determining if negotiating on the price is appropriate. If you find that a vendor isn’t being clear about their pricing, take control of the situation and ask specific questions. For example – asking a florist, “Can you provide a flower package that fits the parameters we’ve discussed for $5,000?” will force a yes or no answer.

In discussing your budget and expectations, it is important to be considerate of the vendor and their business. This is where good research comes in – don’t meet with wedding vendors that clearly won’t be able to make your dreams a reality within your desired price range. If you were to suggest a budget that is much lower than what their services are typically priced at, it might suggest that you haven’t considered the time, effort, and expertise which go into the vendor’s offering. The more honest you are about your budget and expectations, the more likely it is that you can find one who can provide the service you are looking for.

Don’t Be Afraid to Compromise

Being willing to compromise can help you save when negotiating with wedding vendors. This can be done in two ways – by identifying things you do not need or by substituting for more affordable options. A good way to identify parts of the vendor’s offering you do not need can be creating a wants vs. needs list. Anything you identify as a need, you probably won’t want to compromise on for your special day. However, those wants can help you identify areas of potential savings and where you can cut back. For example, if you don’t have a preference as to having sit-down service or a buffet as catering options – go with the less expensive option. Or if you need a wedding photographer, but don’t want the pictures to be in any specific format – getting digital copies as opposed to printed copies could save you some money.

If the wedding vendor is open to substitutions, consider replacing some of the pricier options for more cost-effective ones. For example, if your florist came up with the idea of putting roses in your centerpieces, but you were looking for a more cost-effective flower – consider asking your florist to make that substitution.

Negotiating can be uncomfortable at first, but if you approach the conversations with respect, consideration, and sincerity – you might be surprised at the different ways wedding vendors may be willing to work with you. If you have been considering options to help with your wedding budget, consider our Financial Helper Loan. With low rates, fixed payments, and personalized service – you can say “I do” with less worry. For more information, contact First Financial’s Loan Department at 732.312.1500 Option 4 or visit a local branch.

*APR = Annual Percentage Rate. Actual rate will vary based on creditworthiness and loan term. Subject to credit approval. Personal Loan repayment terms range from 12 to 60 months, and APRs range from 10.24% APR to 18% APR. Minimum loan amount is $500. Loan payment example: A $2,000 Personal Loan financed at 10.24% APR for 24 months, would have a monthly payment amount of $92.51. A First Financial Federal Credit Union membership is required to obtain a Personal Loan or Line of Credit, and is open to anyone who lives, works, worships, volunteers or attends school in Monmouth or Ocean Counties. A $5 deposit in a base savings account is required for credit union membership prior to opening any other account/loan. 

Managing Money as a Couple

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It’s February, and Valentine’s Day is right around the corner. While this might be the month to celebrate love, it could also be a good time to go over your finances with your Valentine. When you marry or share a household with someone, your life changes—and your approach to managing your money may change as well. The good news is it’s usually not so difficult.

At some point, you will have to ask yourselves some money questions—questions that pertain not only to your shared finances but also to your individual finances. Waiting too long to ask (or answer) those questions might have some consequences. It’s also good habit (even if you’ve been together for a long time) to review these questions annually as well.

How do you propose setting priorities? One of your first priorities should be simply setting aside money that may help you build an emergency fund. But there are other questions to ask. Should you open joint accounts? How should you title assets that are owned by both of you?

How much will you spend and save? Budgeting can help you arrive at your answer. A simple budget, an elaborate budget, or any attempt at a budget can prove more informative than you realize. A thorough, line-item budget may seem a little over the top, but what you learn from it may be truly eye-opening.

How often will you check up on your financial progress? When finances affect two people rather than one, statements can become more important. Checking in on these details once a month (or at least once a quarter) may keep you both informed, so that neither one of you have misconceptions about household finances or assets. Arguments can be avoided when money misunderstandings are resolved through check-ups.

What degree of independence do you want to maintain? Do you want to keep some money separate? Some spouses need individual financial “space” of their own. There is nothing wrong with this approach.

Can you be businesslike about your finances? Spouses who are inattentive or nonchalant about financial matters may encounter more financial trouble than they anticipate. Watch where your money goes, and think about ways to pay yourself first. Set shared short-term, medium-term, and long-term objectives.

Communication is key to all this. Watching your progress together may well have benefits beyond the financial, so a regular conversation should be the goal.

If you still have questions, or you’d like more information on how to best manage your finances as a couple – we’re here to help. You can call or email the financial professionals in the First Financial Investment & Retirement Center at 732-312-1534, mary.laferriere@lpl.com or maureen.mcgreevy@lpl.com

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